I was supposed to be happily married for several decades by now. I was supposed to be at the point of financial security, meeting my friends for coffee and having a little grizzle about how long children stay living in your home. I was supposed to still be working a couple of days a week in my partner’s business and spending the rest of the time pursuing my life passion.

That was what was supposed to be. That was the magical ideal I held in my head of how life was supposed to turn out. Guess what? Life had other plans. I have yet to meet someone whose life has turned out as they thought it should. Life has a habit of getting in the way of ‘should’s’ and ‘supposed to’s’ and is a lot messier than we plan for.

We can enter into a lot of grief and denial when it things don’t work out the way they are supposed to. Or … we can let go of our idea of what should be and what our life is supposed to look like and embrace what it is. It is what it is, whether we like it or not, so why not accept it? Find the things to enjoy out of how life turned out. Find ways to move from where it is to where you would like it to be, while appreciating the lessons you have learned on the way.

Thank you life for not always working out the way I thought you should. Thank you for being the wild radical roller coaster you have turned out to be. My life is much more interesting and enjoyable than I ever thought possible and certainly much better than it would have been if I had set my staid plans in place and been able to follow them to the letter. I have competed, travelled, achieved and loved in ways I never could have imagined if life had been as it was supposed to.